A promise

People often think of the past with deep regret for the fact that it cannot be relived either to experience it again or change - whatever be their desire. This craving doesn't get attenuated with time but infact is bolstered with the numerous tensions that accompany passing time. We tend to believe that beneath the stains of time, feelings disappear and people change. Wouldn't disagree but just want to make a few observations - is this change permanent or transient, who brings this change into effect, do we have any say in the change and if so can we stop ourselves from changing? An instant reaction to all these questions would be to simply blurt out that it all depends on the change but all I'd like to ask is that who decides what character the change has - good or evil? At times this decision can be taken based on certain norms and principles we define for ourselves but usually its not that 'einfach' (simple). Life is very subjective in nature and such objectivity is very rare to find in reality. One may wonder at this juncture as to whether my support lies for change or against it .... and to that I can only smile and say that does it matter?

If you're still lost wondering about the purpose of this post, let me bring you out of your misery and clear up the hazy parts. I guess I have changed over the past few weeks and believe that am still in transition. People tend to judge you by the way you present yourself to them and hardly ever strive to dig in deeper. Change need not have any character and can affect any aspect of your life and to this point I agree that often situations force you to change, but in the end isn't it upto us to let that change take control of our priorities or make that change adjust with our lives? We may be sitting ducks but at least we have the determination and will power to channel that change in a way that does not prove to be detrimental to us !! Why is it then that people whom you hold dear fear your changing? Why does a sense of insecurity arise with people who are sure of your being beside them for life when they speculate about the future? No matter how much you assure and constantly stress your committment, their fear persists and in the end you give up on it - or should you ? If you do then aren't you in effect making sure the fear of your loved ones is realised? And if you don't what do you do ? In a fix now aren't we ?

I can't talk about each and every single individual but can surely tell you that if its a promise that I make then its one I am going to keep, come what may. A promise that can be broken with a change in you is not worth making in the first place but if you are sure that no force of nature or reason can budge you from the committment you made to your loved ones, your friends, your love then there should be no reason for the one you made that promse to ever feel insecure and I guess this is a message I'd like to convey to those who fear a loss and in the process let go off the present and the opportunity of what could have been the time of their lives. Live the moment and believe in your trust for the other person and if the answer from within comes that nothing would ever change between the two of you whatever life has in store for you only then would you reach a state of ecstacy and a feeling of warmth that'll kindle your soul for eternity :-)