Q&A

Often the mind is mesmerised and obsessed with searching for answers, to silence the turmoil in our heads. In a transient world, where emotions, careers, personalities have become fluid, changing more frequently than the brand of soap we try, it has become human nature to be at a constant vigil, questioning our motives, goals in life. We repeatedly keep asking ourselves -

• Is this where I see myself working for the next few years?
• Is this the person I see myself dating for the next couple of weeks?
• Should I try and be more receptive to people or play "hard to get"?
• Did I make the right career choice?
• Should I get married? Am I ready for it?
• Should I commit?

No longer is the question of which coloured dress you want to wear to a party merely linked to that evening itself - it has engulfed in it a plethora of other considerations - of social standing, of glamour, of revelation, of seduction, and a million other considerations. Am digressing. From the topic I mean, not from sanity :)

The clarity in our head we yearn for, to get answers to the numerous questions bobbing back and forth in our conscience, is hard to get. We have adopted yoga, meditation, philosophy, and a million other ways to find out what the "answer" is. Such has been the obsession with seeking to "realise" who we are, and what we are meant to do, that we have gone to the extent of detaching ourselves from whatever makes us commit to something final, that makes something in our lives stable and stops the flow of anxiety. It frustrates us. It infuriates us to know that nothing can be done about it. We keep thinking, if we commit now, will we be missing out on something better?

We all have taken decisions in the past - some regretful, some that make us bloat up with pride. Yet we persist, we keep questioning, "what if" I had taken the other path? Well you cannot go back and change that decision. I know most of us might argue that an inability to change the past does not inhibit any inquiry into it. But this is where I want to bring into light a new perspective. Something I probably have realised over the past few days, since a lot has changed in life.

Life is not about .. wait hold on .. prepare for it .. embrace this moment of enlightenment folks ..

Life is not about getting answers, its about asking the right questions.

Sounds simple. Had I not said it and someone like Aristotle or Homer (NOT Simpson) had in their finesse mentioned this line it would have probably gone down in history as one of the greatest revelations! But honestly, it makes sense once you realise what it means to be asking the right questions. We often ask ourselves, "what if", yet we tend to forget and lose sight of "what now". It is difficult to go back in time, trust me I have tried and failed miserably, but what we can accomplish is to understand how to mould our future into something we wanted but could not have. This is one of the most rudimentary examples, there are several higher echelons of thinking behind this simple concept.

Nobody can teach you what the right questions for your life are. Everyone is unique in the answers they seek, and thus, each of us has his or her own enlightenment to discover in the form of the questions we pose. Do not expect an epiphany, a moment of divine intervention that shall reveal all, and suddenly the universe would converge into a single source of energy within you - that simply won't happen. Waiting for a miracle to happen is wonderful, but to centre your entire life expecting one is pure foolishness. Man is the measure - not to be sexist. We are who we are, and we make ourselves who we become purely through our efforts and the way we work around situations.

It is time we realised what we seek, and questioned our questions, rather then fret over not being able to find the answer to our lives. Life is full of coincidences, just make sure you never let one pass without gathering the message of life it brings to you. Fate is what "chance" brings to you, and destiny is what YOU make of that "chance"! :)